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What are your Three Good Things?

A friend of mine who is in the health care field recently attended a work seminar about recognizing and preventing burnout … she sent me a link that the seminar folks included about an exercise called Three Good Things … she said it's been studied and tested and apparently it can really boost happiness and help prevent burnout. 

I'm going to start a new thread with the info she sent me and share it!

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  • LK

    Looking forward to what she has to say!  I know in the therapeutic riding field the average is 5 years before an instructor burns out.  

  • K8sMom2002

    Okay, so here's the long and the short of it:

    Back in 2005, Dr. Martin Seligman, who was President of the American Psychological Association, did some . One of the exercises was called Three Good Things:

    Participants were asked to write down three their causes every night for one week. In addition, they were asked to provide a causal explanation for each good thing.

    And the results were amazing …

    Participants in the three good things exercise began to show beneficial effects one month following the posttest. At the one-month follow-up, participants in this exercise were happier and less depressed than they had been at baseline, and they stayed happier and less depressed at the three-month and six month follow-ups.

    The seminar my friend attended gave these instructions, which are slightly different than what was described in the article:

    A couple of hours before bed, write down Three Good Things that happened today, and explain what your role was in each.

    The seminar guy cautioned about not skipping weekends — he said it was important to do it straight through for at least a week, preferably two. 

    I may not have a chance every night before bed to share my Three Good Things, but I'll make a point of at least some time during each day to share them. And if I skip a day of posting, I'm hoping someone will tag me to remind me to actually share them here.

    So what are my first-ever Three Good Things? 

    • I was able to water my plants on my front porch – and my role in that was I made a point of remembering and taking the time to do that. 
    • I was able to give my poor flea allergic kitty her flea medicine, even though she's gotten extremely skittish about being touched – and my role in that was careful patience and taking the time to pet her gently and "re-tame" her.
    • I was able to make my water-intake goal today — my role in that was I thought of a glass bottle I'd saved and cleaned and tucked away in the cupboard — it was the perfect size for making sure I had an easy way to know when I'd drunk my day's water intake. 

    What are YOUR Three Good Things?

  • LK

    Sounds like good wisdom!  I'm in!  It is so easy to overlook the good things in life and only complain and grumble ( not that we don't have reason to grumble occasionally!  )  .  

    A question – Does it have to be something new, as in not an everyday chore?  So much of what we do is routine, yet still a Good Thing, and I was wondering if the list has to be something not in the routine?

  • K8sMom2002

    My idea is that it is ANYTHING that you think of as good, and what better way to lift your spirits than to see an every day chore as something positive?

    I am reminded of the story of the three bricklayers working side by side on a cathedral (and I suppose you could swap out mosque or synagogue or university — whatever your faith may be) …. 

    • Bricklayer #1: "Grumble, grumble, grumble … my job is to stack bricks on top of one another."
    • Bricklayer #2: "My job is to contribute each of my bricks to this building and be a part of the team that completes it."
    • Bricklayer #3: "My job is to help build this church for the glory of God."
  • LK
    K8sMom2002 posted:

    My idea is that it is ANYTHING that you think of as good, and what better way to lift your spirits than to see an every day chore as something positive?

    I am reminded of the story of the three bricklayers working side by side on a cathedral (and I suppose you could swap out mosque or synagogue or university — whatever your faith may be) …. 

    • Bricklayer #1: "Grumble, grumble, grumble … my job is to stack bricks on top of one another."
    • Bricklayer #2: "My job is to contribute each of my bricks to this building and be a part of the team that completes it."
    • Bricklayer #3: "My job is to help build this church for the glory of God."

    Thanks, Cynthia!  Good story!!  A good reminder that even the smallest task has meaning to God.  Reminds me of a little saying I have on my kitchen sink window sill. 'My Kitchen Prayer - 

    God bless my little kitchen

    I love it's every nook

    And bless me as I do my work

    Wash pots and pans

    and cook.'

  • LK

    My Three Good Things Today: 

    • I paused for a few minutes to watch the robins look for insects and worms when I was outside; my role was that I made the point of taking a moment to breathe and be still to enjoy God's beautiful creation.
    • I stored some very old family photographs in archival-type storage boxes so the photos will last for future generations; my role was making myself take the time to preserve history for our family
    • (Still working on this one, but the evening is still young!!     )

    I will admit at first this seems like 'blowing your own horn'. Which goes against how I was raised, but on closer inspection it is not so much that. 

    In addition to what Cynthia mentions above, there are two other beneficial effects I can see.  A person takes the time to consider his/her day and take an accounting of the good he/she has done.  Also, it seems as though it will make a person want to do more good things.  When reflecting on good deeds in your day it is a short step to consider what further good deeds you may be capable of in the future.

    Well, that's probably enough "philosophying"  for the day!!  

  • MrsButters

    I love this!   I don't know if I will make it to the computer every day to share with the group, but I certainly used to do this in my journal on a daily basis.  It is something I need to capture again, especially in these stressful days.   Thanks for sharing and starting this thread, Cynthia.   My daily 3 might appear mundane or inconsequential to others.  But as a mother to three little ones, I've realized how important even the smallest positive moments can be. ;-P

    My three:

    1) I was able to communicate with the school secretary about an event I am chairing.  My role in this was arriving at the school before pick up and making a point to introduce myself to the school secretary and tackle a task that may have taken days over email.  Instead it took minutes and built rapport.

    2) I got my 2  year old to nap.   Today was a half day for the elementary school, which makes pick up fall right around nap time and adds more chaos to the household when we need to pull the energy down.  My youngest didn't nap early as I had hoped, so I made the decision to scrap our lunch plans and hang at home so he could get some rest before we had to drag him out to his two older sibling's safety class.  I was proud of myself for recognizing that the older kids were a little burnt out too and that we would all benefit from not having to "make the most of a half day". 

    3) I am going to a community Safety Summit tonight.  – My role in this – making sure to get dinner on the table early, pack lunch for my son for tomorrow and earlier ensuring he did homework before our afternoon events.  Also, keeping calm while at the library when no one wanted to leave and I had a precious hour to turn it all around and get myself out the door.  My frustration would not help get them out the door.  So I made them a part of my team.   And here I am with 10 minutes to do a bit of self-indulgent reading and writing, too!

    And that's my three!  Hope it wasn't too long.

    Linda

  • K8sMom2002

    Linda, as a mom, I recognize those as HUGE accomplishments!

    I still remember when we adopted my DD (we adopted her from China), and the orphanage gave us the schedule the babies in our group were on. All of the other parents dispensed with the schedule, saying, "Oh, they just made that up."

    It only took us a couple of times of seeing our daughter not being able to nap if she missed her nap time to make us realize the orphanage wasn't joking around with that schedule. If she missed her naptime, or if she got awakened, she would cry and scream and generally be miserable and unable to sleep either then or later that night. 

    So when she was little, I made a sign and put it on our front door: BABY NAPPING. PLEASE DON'T RING DOORBELL!!! And I also told my family, no calls after 8 p.m., when we were trying to get her settled in for the night. 

    I lived on eggshells until she was old enough to settle herself to sleep and put herself back to sleep if she woke up. 

    The safety summit sounds interesting! Can't wait to hear more of it! 

  • K8sMom2002
    LK posted:
    • (Still working on this one, but the evening is still young!!     )

    I will admit at first this seems like 'blowing your own horn'. Which goes against how I was raised, but on closer inspection it is not so much that. 

    In addition to what Cynthia mentions above, there are two other beneficial effects I can see.  A person takes the time to consider his/her day and take an accounting of the good he/she has done.  Also, it seems as though it will make a person want to do more good things.  When reflecting on good deeds in your day it is a short step to consider what further good deeds you may be capable of in the future.

    Well, that's probably enough "philosophying"  for the day!!  

    Lisa, I think that your self-awareness can be one of your Good Things! I really like how you thought deeply and gave me yet another way of looking at this!

    Yes, accountability is important, and I truly don't believe that humans should spend a day on this earth without being able to say, "Hey, I helped do three good things today!"

    The friend who gave me this tip is a pastor's daughter … I'm going to pass your analysis onto her and I KNOW she's going to be tickled by it!

  • Marie E Natzke

    My 3 good things

    1: My Doctors; I wouldn't be here today if it wasn't for them.

    2: My friends; for their support and their ear when I need one

    3: My job: It may not be exactly what I wanted to do when I had to quit my former job, but and the end of each day I've usually learned something new.

  • Shea

    My house and sanctuary– I feel so good having a place for us to call home, to be safe in, and to be together in.

    My son–I feel blessed every day to have Tommy with me, specifically today he called me so cute–he said "no wonder grandma always wants to hug you when she sees you, you're so cute", lol… Then he got me to be active at the park, and helped me clean up after dinner and gave me some solitude time– which I need to recharge.

    Sustenence- anything that sustains our minds, bodies, and spirits– today I am thankful for finding a healthy dinner that both Tommy and I could enjoy: Burrito made with Seeds of Change Quinoa and rice mix, organic shredded cheese, homemade guacamole, and mild salsa wrapped in a soy-free tortilla. 

  • K8sMom2002
    Marie E Natzke posted:

    My 3 good things

    1: My Doctors; I wouldn't be here today if it wasn't for them.

    2: My friends; for their support and their ear when I need one

    3: My job: It may not be exactly what I wanted to do when I had to quit my former job, but and the end of each day I've usually learned something new.

    Marie, those are GREAT things! And I can see in each of them what YOU did to help bring them about!

    With your doctors, it sounds like you actively sought out good doctors who worked well with you and you asked questions to understand your health conditions better.

    About your friends — to have a friend, the old saying goes, you have to BE a friend, and I can bet that you are the type to stop and listen when THEY need an ear. You've been so sweet and understanding and caring in the short time I've "known" you on this forum.

    Your job: it sounds like how you've helped your job become a good thing is that you have learned to and been willing to adapt and change and learn. 

    Those are super good things!

  • K8sMom2002
    Shea posted:

    My house and sanctuary– I feel so good having a place for us to call home, to be safe in, and to be together in.

    My son–I feel blessed every day to have Tommy with me, specifically today he called me so cute–he said "no wonder grandma always wants to hug you when she sees you, you're so cute", lol… Then he got me to be active at the park, and helped me clean up after dinner and gave me some solitude time– which I need to recharge.

    Sustenence- anything that sustains our minds, bodies, and spirits– today I am thankful for finding a healthy dinner that both Tommy and I could enjoy: Burrito made with Seeds of Change Quinoa and rice mix, organic shredded cheese, homemade guacamole, and mild salsa wrapped in a soy-free tortilla. 

    Shea, I can see your handiwork in all of these things!

    Your house — oh, my, but you have worked HARD to bring this house into reality! And you moved quick … from the time you let your mind wander from a "tiny home" dream to an actual working home that was custom made for you and Tommy! You didn't let the grass grow under your feet!

    Your Tommy — you've done an awesome job mothering him, teaching him to have excellent manners and modeling positivity! And that shows in that comment! 

    Sustenance — again, you work hard to create healthy meals that look good and taste good and are good for you!

  • K8sMom2002

    Okay … just in case I get busy today and don't make it back to check in, here are my Three Good Things, and what I did to help make those Three Good Things happen in the first place:

    • Three Good Things itself — hearing about it and sharing it, because it has given me a huge boost hearing about other people's Three Good Things! And what I did to make that happen was:
      • To be willing to listen to a friend's advice and excitement over a discovery
      • To be willing to be vulnerable and share this with friends and family — and I was rewarded for that with such kind encouragement!
    • My 15 minutes on my exercise bike – got it in this AM! And what I did to make that happen was to be willing to actually start, and to remind myself that even though my DH had to leave, my DD was on spring break and here. (Since strenuous exercise triggers my asthma, I'm not supposed to exercise strenuously alone.)
    • Talking with my sister – I had a few minutes (while I was on my exercise bike) that I could talk to my sis. That was important because today is a sad day for her — the anniversary of when her DH passed away. What I did to make that happen was to follow the advice of a counselor friend I know. My friend encouraged me not to duck away from conversations like this — that most people who have lost someone really do want other people to let them know they remember it. 
  • Shea

    K8SMOM… You are so sweet! That eas very thoughtful of you to call your sister. 

    I am with you on the exercising alone–not a fan of it. Lighter things dont bother me as much–like walking ir real low on my exercise bike. Hopefully today I will get that in. 

    Excellent of you to have gotten your 3 things in already! Now I am starting to get a better feel of what the 3 things are–no just what your grateful for but what you did to make those happen too, I will keep my eyes out for them today. (All I have so far is yummm this coffee right here!)

  • K8sMom2002

    But that's a GREAT start, Shea! First of all, YOU picked out the brand of coffee and figured out how to make it so it was perfect for you. Second of all, you are wise enough to savor little moments during the day!

    Can't wait to see the rest of your list!

  • Shea

    Thanks K8SMOM– that morning cup of coffee really is a special treat and today's I did savour especially!

    2- Going for a nice solitary walk with music. I had to meet Tommy's dad for timeshare today(which is not fun for me–I hate it and wish he would disappear from my life completely but I have to go so I go). We met at the park, and I brought my kindle and headphones (and had Tommy carry his backpack with allergy supplies, water, and toys be wanted to bring). While they played, I took my backpack and walked around the lake listening to music. Each time I got around the big lake I checked in with them. At first they werent getting along well–Tommy was upset that his dad wasnt playing a game right/nicely with him. I just gave them some tips of how they could take turns playing games or find one they both liked and that I hope next time I come around theyre having more fun. And then I left and zoned into my walk and the music and by the time I got around again they were doing better. I was able to get 3 laps in– which is about an hour of walking. The weather was right for it today (although I did still have face pain and headache/allergies and still do although ehile I was walking it felt luke my nise was goung to bleed–it didnt). So I consider it a good because I got exercise in and helped Tommy bond with his father even though it was hard. And I enjoyed the music and walk part and made it through despite the allergies.

    3- I was the learning coach for Tommy for his virtual school lessons–which are rewarding for both of us. I think my favorite part is the interaction is positive, challenging and rewarding, and goal-oriented, and allows for creative expression on both pur parts. His language arts class was about Rescue Workers snd I added an emergency sheet and went over how and when to call 911 and have our address written and put up on a board.

  • Melissa G

    My three:

    I drank more today, I didn't get a terrible headache. I don't think I have been drinking enough, therefore getting horrible headaches. 

    I made dinner, it has been hard the last few weeks to get dinner made nightly

    Have washed two loads of laundry. 

  • Melissa G

    Water. I have been trying very hard to give up my soda habit. Sometimes I add in crystal light. 

  • Shea

    When I first read it I thought of alcohol then I laughed because I knew you were probably talking about water. And yes, I am an avid water-drinker myself! I add the San Pellegrino sparkling water–the blood orange flavored one.

  • Marie E Natzke

    My 3 good things for today

    1- my company had an open house today and my boyfriend and my one of my quilting friends were able to come to it. The 3 of us used to work at my former employer. Elba still works there. So my good thing was being able to show Elba what a machine shop looks like. My boyfriend was able to see equipment he hasn't seen in a while and some new ones as well.

    2- making it through The day even though I feel  lousy.

    3-today is Thursday and that means it's payday!!!!! I made it through another week!! 

    I enjoyed reading everyone else's 3 good things. 

  • LK

    My Three Good Things:  (  I know it's late so this may show up as Friday instead of Thursday!    )

    • Met my parents, DS, DDIL, and DGS for breakfast.  DH had to work.  It was an enjoyable breakfast!  My part in making this happen – I got up early enough to take all my meds, pills and inhalers, and feed the horses with time to join them and not be late!  Almost canceled since some mornings it takes the lungs while to settle.  
    • I met with the counselor again.  My part – I got all my errands finished in time to meet her.  Even arrived early so had a few minutes to sit and breathe.  Pretty unusual for me!  Usually I'm arriving just in the nick of time.

    Well, I seem to think of two items but, again, the third one draws a blank.    Couldn't be because I should be asleep by now!   

  • K8sMom2002

    Way to go, everyone! Looks like we've been on Three Good Things Patrol!

    Lisa, I see a thing that could be your Third Good Thing: You had some "little minutes" before your appointment to breathe and collect your thoughts, and your role in that was that you planned well and had good self-discipline to have the time NOT to rush … I treasure those pockets of time for me! 

    Melissa, taking time for self-care is hard for me — it's always one of those "round-to-it" things. So hats off for you for taking preventative steps to drink more water! Now nag me, please, because I need to do the same thing! And washing laundry — wowza on getting two loads done in one day! That takes planning at my house because our hot water is limited, and we have to schedule laundry and dishes around showers. 

    Shea, I think it is AWESOME that you found a Good Thing in something that can be so incredibly painful and trying for you — whoa, I am IMPRESSED. I'm not surprised, though, because you have shown me and modeled for me how to find good things in everything and how to savor the moment. This morning I was savoring my cheese toast, and I thought, "Wow, how awesome does this taste! I'm glad I'm not rushing!"

    Marie, love how you can share your work with your friends and family! I grew up around a dad who had a home machine shop, so I can fall into the trap of assuming that people know what a drill press or a lathe is. We spend so much time at work, it's good that your company is willing to share that experience — and hats off to you for being willing to take the time to ask your friends and family to come and share!

    I'll put my Three Good Things in a separate reply …

  • K8sMom2002

    Okay, I've been on a Three Good Thing Patrol this AM … as a night owl, mornings are not naturally my favorite time of day, so I have to find a way to motivate myself.

    Three Good Thing One:

    • My lovely DD offered to take the car to be serviced AND to buy groceries for me today on her last day of Spring Break! We're going to be out of town tomorrow to tour a college, so she realized that I would need to do grocery shopping on Sunday if she didn't do it today. My part in that: getting the grocery list ready AND calling and setting up a service appointment, and agreeing that she could take a friend with her for company. 

    Three Good Thing Two:

    • My cheese toast. It sounds simple, but I usually rush through my morning breakfast. Today, I thought about Shea and how she'd savored her coffee earlier in the week, and I made the conscious effort to really actually taste my food and be grateful for it. Cheese tastes GOOD.

    Three Good Thing Three:

    • I had two minutes before work today to dash out and water my plants on the front porch. It was a good thing I did, too, because the verbena that I have hanging in a basket was looking a little wilted. My part in that? I actually REMEMBERED and I figured out that I could take an old milk jug, fill it with a gallon of water, and it was easier than hauling a big long hose around. 
  • Pljohns

    I'm having a really hard time with this-I just do normal junk every day and really nothing for me or nothing that I especially do-I do make time for my meds every day and get up early enough to do that and make pancakes/sausage and eggs for DS for breakfast (gotta love growing teenagers!), take care of the dogs and get dinner going before I leave for work.

    After that, I work all day and go home and do it again-and that's about it.  Guess my life really sucks-

    • I guess my 3 things would be DS got fed because I made it for him
    • I earned a paycheck by being at work all day
    • I have food for my family because I did the grocery shopping and Sams run and we have utilities because I paid the bills
  • K8sMom2002

    Hugs, Lynn … this is NOT supposed to make you feel worse, and my apologies if it has! Maybe different people need different things? 

    I can say that you have shared little things over the course of the time I've "known" you that have made me think, "Wow, how NICE! I need to do that!"

    Some things over the time that you've shared (forgive me if I forget them or mis-remember them)

    • how you take the time if your kids need it to talk late at night before bed — that inconvenient time when my brain is screaming for sleep and I'm wondering, "Now WHY couldn't this have come up before?"
    • The dedication you have to making things so pretty — you truly ARE a regular Martha Stewart, sprucing up your home and making such gorgeous cards and crafts.
    • The care you give your family … you do such a wonderful job, and I can see how much your "touch" has made a big impression with your boys, because they have learned to respect ladies and help out around the house — sometimes a hard thing to do with typical southern dads as their role model.

    And yes, you do have three great things that you've already listed …

    • you fed your DS … you are such a service-oriented person (UNLIKE ME, ), so I'm wondering, "What was Lynn thinking as she fixed that food? I'll bet she was thinking, 'I'll fix this because I know he will enjoy it.'" And DID he enjoy and appreciate it?
    • you got PAID!!!! And that represents a job that is a marked improvement over what you had — your boss may be a guy who chases rabbits and can forget to take care of you, but when your old job became too much, you had the courage to say, "Nope, this is not good for me. There has to be something better." You are a pioneer in that sense, and I know it takes a lot of courage to do that.
    • Unless you're like me, a person who despises grocery shopping and hates to cook, you will never know how in awe I am of a person who can figure out how to get grocery shopping in before the weekend. When I was a young married, I also had a habit of forgetting to pay the utility bill or order gas — so that would mean that I'd have to pay a late fee for the power bill ( ) or sometimes run out of propane — and always at the WORST possible moment. 

    The absolute BEST Good Thing you didn't list … even when Three Good Things didn't come readily to mind, you dug deep and figured some out.

    There are going to be days in everyone's life where we're going to have to dig deep. My DH's were like that yesterday. His first thing? 

    "I woke up this morning. But I didn't have a thing to do with THAT."

  • Pljohns

    Cynthia-you are THE BEST and we are all so much better for "knowing" you and having you for a moderator.  By Friday I'm just worn out and this week in particular, I just don't feel like I have done one single thing right.  Thank you for your kind words and NO you did NOT make me feel bad-I"m just not good at finding things that I do good.

    Thank you for the three things-and truth be known while I was cooking breakfast, I was thinking how much can this kid actually eat and still have a 28" waist and how much more can he want-if it's any more, I'll be up at 4:30 instead of 5 to get it all done.  I've taken to calling him-in jest-a walking garbage disposal because he eats everything in sight-in large quantities and could still hide behind a tree.  It should be interesting suit shopping with him tomorrow-talk about particular about clothes-he could wear out a girl shopping for just the right thing.

    I didn't even think about the cards-yes, they take an hour or so per card to make and I know they all end up in the trash and i"m perfectly fine with that.  I figure if they put a smile on someone's face for 15 seconds, it's worth it.

    Our mail is so awful that I've put the important bills on autopay because I may not get the bill at all!  I don't like doing that, but it took the stress off me every month of did we get it and did it come in BEFORE it was due.  Our post office is absolutely terrible.

    Oh I'm like you-I HATE to grocery shop.  I'm so thankful for the WM order on line and then go pick it up.  It saves me from sludging through the store with everyone else after a day of work.  Even being tired on Friday night, it's better than trying to go on Saturday.  I moved the pick up time back an hour so I have time to make the Sams run after work and on the way home and Sams is just down the road from WM so it's on the way and then I'm done for the week/weekend.

    I can hardly wait for UPS to run today-the stuffed animal opossum will be here and I had it delivered HERE so I can have some fun with it.  It's Friday, we're all dead and maybe it will get us through today.

  • LK

    Lynn,  I'm pretty sure your 'opossum' will liven up the day at your work!!    

  • Pljohns

    Well-it would have-just got a shipping notice that it won't be here until monday-oh well, I'll start the week off right!

  • Melissa G

    @Pljohns I think we all go through that to some extent. As our kids get older we go through stages where we give all to them and little for us. I have gotten to the point I just enjoy the little things. I got a bath without anyone interrupting, that is huge around here. Someone is always knocking at the door needing something. I had a meeting to go to Monday night and I got excited because I go to go there without anyone else in the car! My son is 15 and I can't keep enough food in the house. It seems like every time I turn around the cupboards are empty.  

    My three for today:

    I remembered to put the chicken in the fridge so I can bake it today

    Laundry was started 

    Despite having a nasty head/chest cold, I am up and moving. 

  • Pljohns

    Melissa-I totally agree with you and they are grown and gone before you know it so I do enjoy all of the times we have together.  I try to enjoy the little things too but most of the time, there isn't even time for those-my shower is about 5 min tops in between DS#2 and DH and usually not much hot water left but any later and it's 10:00 before I even get my turn in the shower.  I guess three things today are:

    Grocery shopping is done-all I have to do it pick it up after I stop at Sams

    Even though I feel like crud-I'm at work and have taken care of my family before I left

    Dinner menu is updated/changed for the rest of the month

    At least I accomplished something!

  • LK

    I'm impressed you all have managed to get quite a bit done and it's only lunchtime!!  Good for you!!

  • Shea

    My 3 good things: 

    1- Mall shopping trip

    Well I wanted to get outta tbe house, so we did our school lessons quickly–they are lighter lessons on Fridays– and went to find the mall. I brought my coupons, saved some money and got some exercise and a few clothes for Tommy and a book for me. It wore me out. We ate lunch there at Red Robin because they have an allergy menu, and I am a rewards member and got a free quinoa veggie burger bc its my bfay month. I really do enjoy the mall. It was nice bc its an outdoor mall so I dont have to deal with the scents or dander trapped in with me and theres good ventilatuon, and can go in the stores that dont bother me as much so I get the ac and pollen break.

    2-clean house to breathe in

    I vacuumed everything (even inside the couch cushions), and especially the hepa purifiers, then dusted, and then tan all tbe purifiers on high and sprayed my ADMS allergy spray (just got my new refill from amazon). It needed to be done because a few days ago when it was cooler out I opened all tbe windows (because I am still airing out the formeldyhydy smell from our place–its working its almost gone now) but I did let some pollens in and my skin is broken out and Im flaring so I really needed a clean house. Also did dishes and laundry. The cleaning wasnt the good part but right now it feels and looks great in here so I say: GOOD. 

    3- Had multiple shorter good "play" times with Tommy. It was busy today but we still squeezed in some fun play out in the backyard and in his room: I think playtime is so important, and also totally get what ya'll said up there about the kids growing fast. I think playtime is really something nice I can do with Tommy where I am really mindful about letting him call the shots for a bit and seeing the creative ideas he has and fun personas he makes for his little toy friends. And we always have fun imagination adventures. I think it keeps my mind sharp too and breaks up the tediousness of chores.

    I also enjoy reading everyones 3 good things! Oh I forgot to say I squeezed a quick shower in today too (I had too bc my skin is just not happy, Im hoping these rashes go away soon–tonight I gotta get Tommy in the bath–he tries to dodge baths lol. 

  • K8sMom2002
    Pljohns posted:

    Thank you for the three things-and truth be known while I was cooking breakfast, I was thinking how much can this kid actually eat and still have a 28" waist and how much more can he want-if it's any more, I'll be up at 4:30 instead of 5 to get it all done. y.

    You think the same thing that I do when I hear DD rooting around in the fridge — for two hours straight after school! How can she eat that much, and WHERE DOES IT GO?????

    Thank you for YOUR kind words! You ladies are AWESOME! 

  • K8sMom2002

    Shea, I do declare, you have a secret talent as a "house whisperer" … I think you could make the "sickest" house healthy again! 

  • Marie E Natzke

    My three good things for today

    Hmmm,I'm coming up short today but here goes…

    1—it's Friday have the next 2 days off…get to spend more time with my boyfriend.

    2——–i have a 17 mile  drive to get to work. I pass by Chicago Executive Airport everyday. When I get to work I'm a little stiff getting out of the car. So I take a little time to stand by my car to look up at the stars if its not cloudy out. Sometimes I get to see the beginning of the sunrise. I leave for work by 5am and start working at 6am.

    3—was able to change my bedding before going to bed tonite…oh boy that's the best I can do for today…

     

  • Shea

    Ahhh the beauty of clean sheets   Skygazing is nice too!!! And yay for Friday!

    And thanks K8SMom!!! (I do like keeping my home with the healthiest air I can because there is so much I cannot control everywhere else, so having my home a safe, clean-air place is just like the best thing ever to me). 

  • K8sMom2002

    Marie, I love your Three Good Things! Shea’s absolutely right that there’s nothing that beats clean sheets!

    And a starry sky can take my breath away…

    My TGT for today:

    • I got to spend the day with my DD on a college tour. It was so good to imagine her well and healthy and strong and confident, and being able to take advantage of all the wonderful opportunities that the college folks talked about. My part? I did the legwork to get us there, and nagged my DH to take off, too!

    • For once, Atlanta traffic wasn’t as bad as I feared! That’s not something I had anything to do with, but I’ll give myself points because I faced my anxiety about it and went despite knowing how bad it could be.

    • We got to make a stop by the Dekalb Farmers Market— I love going there! My part? I put it on my non-negotiable to-do list as my treat!

  • Marie E Natzke

    My 3 good things,

    The day didn't start well. Coughing very bad and my boyfriend had to take his brother -in-law to the hospital. He ended up having a polyp burst in his colon. He was able to come home this afternoon. 

    1– I was able to get in to see the allergist this morning. I took a chance and went to the office right after my chiropractor appointment. They are usually busy but today they had a lull and took me right in. Refilled my cough medicine and albuterol for my nebulizer. And they counted this visit as my new vials visit so I don't have to go Wednesday to see the Dr. I'll only go to get my allergy shots if I'm feeling better. They also have me a script for an antibiotic if I get worse I can get it filled right away.

    2–stopped at ArtVan store and I found a small reclining chair I can get for my bedroom that I can use also to sleep on when I have a bad arthritis night. Will have to wait a couple months to get it. Need to rearrange my room to do this.

    3 enjoyed the sunshine today even though it's only 27 degrees out. We are to have a storm with rain snow tomorrow night 

    I am a little worried about when it does get warm here. I'm afraid we will have a   pollen explosion here when it does warm up.!!  

    WTG . Shea and K8SMOM

  • Melissa G

    Marie, I hope your coughing is better and that is awful about your brother in law. I hope he is doing better! That's great the allergist was able to see you today! I feel the same way, I think once the weather warms up, we are going to have one huge pollen explosion! 

  • Marie E Natzke

    Hi Melissa,

    Yes my cough is much better today.  The new cough medicine is working I think the prescription was too old.  It was from Jan 2017.  I've only taken 2 doses and my coughing is much improved. 

    So my 3 good things for today are

    1–getting in yesterday to see the PA and getting new scripts so today I'm feeling much better.  Maybe that's cheating a little as I used this yesterday as well.

    1–Bought some biofreeze cream to try and help pain in my shoulder and feet. I used it last night seemed to help a little,  today will try it on my feet and see if that helps. I also found some new braces for my left elbow and left hand.  they are sleeve type braces and seem to be helping with the wrist pain.  I think this is all from the shoulder problems and it's going down into my arm and hand.

    2-Was able to spend sometime with my boyfriend.  Took a walk at the mall and did grocery shopping.  With my arthritic feet make it hard to walk for long periods of time but we sit down for a while when we need a break from walking.

    3-My boyfriend found a pillow for me to use to support my shoulder when I sleep to help support it.

    K8SMOM2002, Shea, Melissa,PLJOHNS,  Nemo    and everyone else

    how are you doing on your TGT…

  • Shea

    Well.. Today is more of a struggle… Not much panned out…. I am just not having a good day health-wise. Tommy has a bad sore throat. But I think I can cherry-pick a few good things:

    Im truly happy I can rest on my home with my son… Especially on days like today… I am thankful I tood my ground and fought the disability battle and won.

    Im happy to have my medicine here and close (I am nebbing right now)….AND It is much nicer to neb at home than have to go to the ER… So I am happy I reached out to doctors for help or Id be much worse off right now. 

    Im happy I had Childrens Motrin and throat spray in the house for Tommy– and that he has nintendo and toys he can play with that make being sick less crummy.

  • Shea

    Marie, glad you are getting some relief–you are so proactive in finding remedies and that is awesome that your bf looks out for you too!

    And K8SMOM, glad the trip had some nice moments and good breaks in it and was productive!

  • LK

    I have to admit I'm still having some trouble figuring out my Three Good Things and what My Parts in making them happen are.  I start leaning toward just counting my blessings!  

    I know you have shown us how to do this several times already, Cynthia, so I will try it again!  I think I will try to write them down on paper and see if that makes my mind work better!   

    Be back in a little bit!  

  • Shea

    LK, I think it is kinda like counting your blessings, while adding that you yourself are a part of that blessing happening. And I really do feel like it helpful. Thanks K8SMOM for posting it, and for everyones responses.

  • LK

    So, my Three Good Things:

    1. Walked inside the house today.  (Not enough, but at least some.)  My part – Even though it was snowing outside and cold and I felt like curling up with a cup of hot chocolate on a cloudy day, I set the timer and walked.  
    2. Mopped the hardwood floors.  My part – Made sure to get some cleaning solution so I could mop the floors!  I suppose also taking the time to do them and not putting it off for another day.
    3. Washed DH's work clothes for the week.  My part – Took the time to see what needed to be washed instead of playing catchup in the middle of the week.

     

  • Pljohns

    I have 3 for the weekend at least:

    1.  talked to DS about some things that were bothering him-my part was giving him advise without running one of his friends in the ground.  The result-he made a good decision to change who he is going to prom with.

    2.  Got to make some cards and have them ready to go out in the mail today-hopefully they will cheer up the people that get them and they cheered me up making them.

    3.  got to spend some extra time with DH and just thank him for helping so much over the weekend.  Most of this one was from his part, but I did my part by thanking him and letting him know how much it meant that he actually did what he did.