New Year’s Resolutions

It's that time of year – I'm starting to see all the NY resolutions on my social media feed. I don't usually make any – I never last a week with "diet and exercise" type ones  But I have decided that this year, I'm going to make more of an effort to make time for myself to recharge my own batteries. I know that's not very tangible and hard to quantify. I think, for me, it's more about reminding myself that I need balance in my life. To take time to do things I want to do instead of always thinking about what I didn't get done.

Are you making a New Year's Resolution? How will you know if you succeed in keeping it?


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  • Shea

    I like that Kathy! Sometimes I just all of a sudden realize Im miserable and I think to myself…

    "Lets just stop everything and think: what will make me feel better right now"

    … And it really helps me. And it doesnt (always) end up that I just do something lazy or seemingly fun…  Sometimes Ill clean…. Because I cant even THINK until the place is clean.. And the desire for a clean home drives me… Sometimes its to go for a spontaneous walk or do some art. I like the spur of it type actions vs planning and then just trying to knock things off a list all day. But I usually mix it on with my list of chores and errands. I want to make an effort to ask that question to myself more often though.

  • Kathy P

    That sounds like a great plan Shea! I'm thinking more of getting out ahead of things – planning non-stressful getaways, taking time off, following through with friends who say we should get together.

  • Pljohns

    I think the one thing I would like to do is take a baby step toward taking care of me-saying NO to things I'm just not able to do-no matter what people think or say-taking some time off and a baby step toward making me OK with being me.

  • Jen

    Self-care is a good one.  I don't have a super specific resolution, but one thing I plan to change is to start making sure decisions I make have my family's best interests in mind.  Sometimes that means self-care – oxygen mask and all that.  Sometimes that means saying no to things that won't work for my family – ie, last night at our big family get together, I told my parents and sister that we really needed to do our smaller get together at home today.  DS held it together while we were out, but I think 2 nights in a row of eating out might be tough for him.  He has autism and getting out of routine can sometimes be tough for him.  Also, I think I need to take a hard look at things that are keeping me from making needed appointments for myself and my kids.  I have had to turn down appointment and therapy slots for them and delay appointments because we can't swing schedule changes.

  • K8sMom2002

    Lynn, I think your resolution is a great one! Good boundaries are a great way to help ease stress, because they are proactive and not reactive. 

    Let's see … a few resolutions for myself that aren't hard and fast, but more along the lines of "let's put more good stuff in and crowd the bad stuff out …"

    • More veggies this year … I'm going to try make our plates look a bit more colorful. No hard and fast rule, and no beating myself up when we don't get it done. But every veggie we eat is less room for junk food, right??
    • Not letting my sis be my personal shopper … it's so seductively easy because she's a teacher and has way more holiday time off than I do. Plus, she doesn't mind shopping, while I hate it. But she never hands me the receipts, and I forget to pay her. And then, months later, she'll need money and get all, "I need this NOW!" I'll think I have her paid off, but then she'll say, "Oh, I hated to give you ALL the receipts because it was so much." I swear, I'm at least going to use my online banking to just send her $20 a month to pay her a retainer.
    • More exercise and activity — again, I'm just aiming for #beatyesterday mentality. 
    • Being more proactive in general … trying not to put things off, trying to OHIO (only handle item/issue once). 

    I would say that I would have a cleaner house, but,  that is SO not happening … but I can aim to donate/toss one item a week. 

  • Megan Roberts

    It sounds like everyone is kind of on the same wavelength of taking better care of themselves/ self-care/ giving yourself time to recharge. I am right there with you. I'm also trying to make more time for all the wonderful people in my life in 2018. I tend to book my life wall to wall, sunrise to post-sundown, and my relationships tend to suffer. Especially the people I have to make more of an effort to get to.

    I have also been threatening to transition to a vegan diet over the course of 2018, as I've been listening to a few wellness podcasts that really have been inspiring me, and the hosts of both are vegan endurance athletes/champions (in particular, the Rich Roll podcast). I'm already vegetarian but rely heavily on dairy products and eggs for survival. I would have to stop eating ice cream everyday in the summer. Plus I might end up a divorcee if I follow through; I'm married to an avid meat-eater. I'm trying to move towards a nutrient-dense, plant-based diet. But I realize that does affect the people around me, too. So we will see how it goes! 

    @K8sMom2002, I'm impressed with your detailed list! Your description of your relationship with your sis is totally cracking me up. It's so nice you guys live close enough to be able to depend on each other like that, even if it does lead to drama sometimes!

    @Pljohns and @Jen I am rooting for you in the self-care/ setting boundaries department. That is so hard, to do what is best for you and/or your family when you are a people pleaser and there are SO many competing needs. I hope you find the balance you are looking for!

    @Kathy P I am also trying to recognize my need to re-charge before it gets to the point where I am crispy fried burnt out. I really suck at that. Hopefully you give yourself the time to just listen to your own needs instead of reacting to what the world is demanding of you all the time. If you're someone that pushes yourself to go-go-go all the time, and I say this because I relate, it could be helpful to carve out time on your schedule to do nothing.