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Holidays are headed our way … what’s your plan??

So Thanksgiving will start off the holidays, and it's right around the corner. I know that holidays mean family gatherings … and sometimes that includes extended family members that don't always understand the severity of our asthma and allergic issues.

AAFA had a blog post last year with some good tips: .

What are some issues you deal with during the holidays? What are ways you've found to work around those issues?

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  • Pljohns

    You beat me to this Cynthia-planned to start this thread earlier and just totally forgot (pred brain)

    For Thanksgiving, it will be just us 4 + MIL but I'll have all of the cooking to do.  Dh will smoke the turkey but I'll have everything else.  Have got to start thinking Christmas gifts and getting a tree up.  Christmas will be a challenge.  Now that MIL lives here, she will be over for every holiday and she and my mom do NOT get along.  I'll have them all for Christmas and my Dad likes for me to take him shopping on Christmas eve.  Always another challenge-right now, I just want to get through Thanksgiving

  • Brenda Silvia-Torma

    How did it get to be almost turkey time??? This year has flown by so fast. My DH, DD and I will be heading to my sister's house for thanksgiving this year. My mom and dad will be joining us and it will be the first time in three years that we will all be together at thanksgiving.

    I need to figure out what I plan to bring…most likely homemade apple pie and  cranberry sauce and a big salad. I'll probably arrive a little early to help with the cooking. YUM!

    Brenda

  • LK

    Hard to believe Thanksgiving is a week from Thursday!  

    We've hosted Thanksgiving dinner for the past 22 years.  Since I've had asthma we have proactively told family and friends to please not wear perfume or cologne since it is a trigger for me.   Sometimes when my lungs are still "angry" even just normal baking of the turkey and other foods sets them off.  

    I have gotten better about taking a break during all the food preparation and using my inhaler or neb before I get in dire straits.  Still sometimes I am so focused on what I am trying to get accomplished that I do put it off until I really am needing it. 

    My DH doesn't tell his side of the family how I am really doing so when they are around me, they really have no clue what my triggers are or how much breathing trouble I can get in.  They sometimes say things that make me feel more self conscious about my asthma, but I try to remember that they aren't around me much and just don't know what to say or do.  

    This year our DS and DIL are hosting it at their house.  I need to ask them if DIL's side of the family will be there and ask if they can refrain from wearing scents.   

    For Christmas, we usually go to my parents' house and it is a small gathering, and everyone is around me enough to (hopefully!     remember.  

  • Jeana

    For the first time ever we will be on a cruise for Thanksgiving! The doctor started me on symbicort so this will test me being away from my doctor.

  • Brenda Silvia-Torma

    Jeana, WOW!! That's awesome! There should be a health clinic on the cruise, correct? Where is your cruise going to?

    Have fun!!

    Brenda

  • Melissa G

    Time is flying by! I am hosting and cooking all the food. We are having turkey, mashed potatoes, sweet potato casserole, green been casserole, corn, stuffing, deviled eggs, dinner rolls, banana pudding and pumpkin pie. It is only my parents coming over. We will have leftovers for a week!

  • K8sMom2002

    Oh, my, Jeana, cruising on Thanksgiving … sounds lovely! What recommendations has your doc given you?

    Lisa, would it make you feel more or less self-conscious to go ahead and give your DH's family a heads-up? Will it feel strange to be having it at your DS and DIL's house?

    Brenda, I hear you on how this year is flying! It doesn't feel like it should be Thanksgiving at all! And when I think about how this means it's close to half of DD's senior year being gone … 

    Lynn, thank you for wanting to start a thread! Sorry I beat you to the punch! Hugs on your MIL and your mom not getting along … that has to add to the stress of the day! Here's hoping that they will call a truce.  Good that your DH will smoke the turkey.

  • LK

    Cynthia,  Yes, my DH has given them a heads up in the past but that side of the family is short on words when communicating!    

    It is does feel a little off not having it here, but I know it will turn out fine.

  • K8sMom2002

    I'm hopeful that everything will go A-OK, Lisa, and that your DH's family will get the message even if they don't communicate it very well.

    I really, really need to get with the program and nail everyone down to see what we are doing for Thanksgiving. The menu never changes, but the place where we all eat DOES. 

  • LK

    Thank you, Cynthia!  Talked with DIL yesterday and we are having it at her house and it will just be the close family and not the 12-15 extended family we have been having.  Since it is her first year hosting it, don't need to overwhelm her!  So thankfully, everyone that is coming is well aware of my triggers.  

  • Deborah Bartlett

    Believe it or not, DH and I will be eating alone this year. My Mom and Step Dad don't feel like doing anything at all and want to skip the festivities until Christmas. My sister and her hubby are going to his aunt's house. He has a large Italian family….lots of relatives! So I am going to roast a turkey breast and have stuffing, mashed potatoes, yams, mashed turnip, creamed onions, broccoli, corn, dinner rolls and don't forget the GRAVY!  For dessert….pumpkin pie with vanilla ice cream (Turkey Hill ) topped with whipped cream and cinnamon. I don't mind this because I really have been through alot with my asthma lately. Soon it is time to write out Christmas cards and put them in my desk until it's time to mail them out. Also time to go over that gift list again. Also time to make a cookie plate gift list. I have to figure out who would like what….I certainly hope each and every one of you has a wonderful Thanksgiving! I am thankful to be able to talk with all of you! 😊

  • Pljohns

    ANY holiday alone is not a bad thing.  DH and I have no family in town (or HAD none until his Mom moved here 5 weeks ago) and we have had company every single holiday and 3 day weekend for the past 25 years and I have all of the cooking to do.  I have no idea what Thanksgiving will be this year-I know I don't have to do a turkey-DH usually smokes one but he reminded me his company smokes turkey breasts and gives all of the employees for Thanksgiving so the turkey is DONE.  Good thing-his smoker is on the fritz-now all I have to do is the rest.

    Not sleeping from pred isn't a bad thing-at 3AM this morning I figured out what I'm doing for my staff for Christmas.  I have this cool pan that is actually 12 small loaf pans connected so I'm going to make chocolate pound cake, orange pound cake and banana nut bread and give them all 1 of each.  That should work!!!  Gotta love the pred midnight not sleeping.

  • Deborah Bartlett

    Isn't it something that we all manage and we sometimes do more than some people I know that don't have any health problems. 

    That is a really cool pan you have. Those loaves will make great gifts!!! I found some small foil wrapped chocolate Santas. There are 50 in the pack. Only cost 2.99. I am going to attach a few on top of each cookie plate next to the sticker I put on with the person's name. Actually, when you think about it, the cookie plate is a gift too because they can reuse it!!!!

  • Melissa G

    Turkey day is only 5 days away! 

    I still need to get a turkey ! I am hoping to do my shopping tomorrow afternoon. 

    Is everyone prepared for Thanksgiving?

  • Pljohns

    Haven’t even started-Oh wait-guess I have. I bought mashed potatoes today.  I decided to try and do anything I could to help with time so got mashed potatoes already done-not instant ones-real potatoes with milk and butter.  We’ll see how they are.

  • Shea

    Tommy and I are going to my parents house for Thankgiving and my brother and his wife (who now try to wear freshly laundered clothing because of my severe cat-dander allergy) and my younger brither and sister will all be there. 

    Scents bother me some but no one usually cakes it on too much, and I try to avoid hugs anyways which us usually when Id get a whiff of it). 

    My mom is doing most of the cooking, and most of the foods are our normal, but my sister is vegan this year, and Tommy and I have some food allergies and aversions, so we have a few new things. I am making cooked honeyed carrots because it is one of the few vegetables Tommy enjoys. And I am making a blueberry pie as well. I offered to do more but my mom wouldnt have it so I figured Id bring my dishes prepared and help out in the kitchen when she lets me. 

    I am excited about eating all the yummy food! And Tommy and I will bring his turkey decoration he made for school and work on our thank you list!

  • Pljohns

    Sounds like a lovely time Shea and WAHOO on your family now trying to wear freshly laundered clothing to help with the dander.  

    I have MIL for Thanksgiving .  DH’s employer has always smoked turkey breasts for employees for Thanksgiving so at least I don’t have to do a turkey (a breast is plenty for us).  I’ll do mashed potatoes (Sams did those), green bean casserole, dressing and deviled eggs.  Ms.Smith made an apple pie for us and chocolate one.  MIL wasn’t thrilled at store bought pies and informed me she could make mashed potatoes cheaper than what I bought-I looke at her and told her so could I but it was a time thing and I was exhausted so that’s the way it is this year.  She shut up…

  • Deborah Bartlett

    I am prepared but will be exhausted. Weather today made me feel a bit lousy. Breathing was ok….no severe shortness.  They had Sara Lee pies on sale for 1.99 .Bought 3 and stuck them in the freezer. Pumpkin, apple crumb and cherry. 

  • Melissa G

    Lynn, some times you have to do what you have to do! Your dinner will be delicious!

    Deborah, those pies sound yummy!

  • Deborah Bartlett

    It doesn't matter if the food is made from scratch, or if it's store bought. What does matter is that you enjoy yourself while eating it. The people you spend your time with will be the highlight, and the food will be the compliment. When you have an illness, convenience foods are a blessing. Thank goodness we can buy them! If there are times when we are able to make things homemade, then those times are cherished. We can never predict illness flare ups. They just happen! That's why I stock my freezer with quick things….just in case! 

  • LK

    Well said, Deborah!  Well said!  It is hard to remember this especially when we think others have come to expect our homemade foods.  I think we put more pressure on ourselves than they do.  Or at least I hope that is the case!    

    For me, that's the hardest part – "We can never predict illness flare ups. They just happen! "  

  • Pljohns

    Totally agree Deborah!  we spend so much time worrying that the food will be what everyone expects until we are exhausted and don't get to enjoy spending time with family and friends.  

    You are spot on with never being able to predict illness flare ups either-they just happen and seem to at the most inopportune time.  I keep things in the freezer too and have several "quick/easy" recipe's too

  • Deborah Bartlett

    Hi Lisa! I think we put more pressure on ourselves than they do. Seems that way because we strive to make others happy. We feel good about ourselves when we please others. 

    A good part of holiday get togethers is the visit…not just the food!

  • Deborah Bartlett

    Speaking of never knowing how we'll feel, this is why I am making tomorrow's dinner today. I have a 4 pm doctor appointment. Who would want to cook after that? I am making pasta with Alfredo sauce, but will add cheese and broccoli florets. DH likes that imitation crabmeat, so I will add some of that and make it a one-dish meal. 

  • Deborah Bartlett

    I had an idea! (wow) 💡 I found these little rolls of fabric at the end of the craft aisle in Wal-Mart. They are called fat quarters. They were 97 cents each, but were 50 % off. I bought 5 of them. They have other holiday patterns, plus other designs. I am going to use this fabric for wrapping some small gifts. I have lots of ribbon to use to secure the fabric. I figure people can reuse the fabric any way they like. Just for something different anyway.

     

     

  • Pljohns

    OK so we test ran the Sams mashed potatoes and they are really GOOD.  Dh licked the bowl clean and everyone said they tasted not just OK but really good.  Guess that means that’s what we’ll have for Thanksgiving!

  • LK

    That's good news Lynn!  I am glad you are doing things to make the holiday more enjoyable and less stressful!